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Whew… it’s been quite a while since we last updated this. But, I’m here today to share about what’s been going on in the past year with my littlest sister.

One year ago yesterday, we held this sweet girl for the first time. For those of you who haven’t met her yet, this is our precious Eleanor Mae.

One year ago today, we walked across this construction zone. This was  the only way to get to the Civil Affairs Building where Rui Shan was waiting to meet us.

It was an interesting and visible reminder that the enemy doesn’t want orphans to be in families; a physical barrier. We know, however, that our loving God wants us to care for orphans and He will provide a way for us to get through the physical and spiritual obstacles.

When we walked into the room, our little sister was lying on a caretaker’s lap and we learned that was just about the only thing she could do. Since then, she has made huge strides!

In the past year, Ellie has started eating solid foods (mashed or cut into little bits and spoon-fed). She can sit up on her own. She is mobile: she can roll both ways and go from sitting up to lying down and from lying down to sitting up. She has started to bear weight and has had rodding surgery to make her bones straight so they are less prone to a significant fracture. She is working on communication, and will soon add speech therapy to her regular rotation of physical and occupational therapy.

Eleanor particularly enjoys:

  • Eating
  • Music
  • Hanging out in her own house
  • Playing on the floor
  • Playing with toys and books
  • Swinging
  • Being talked to and played with
  • Being held and carried
  • Swimming – especially with her grandparents, who took her for her first real swim time
  • Her siblings’ antics, horseplay, and romping
  • Her daily routines

On her 2nd birthday – before we even got to meet her – we began praying Psalm 27 for this precious girl. Here are a few verses in picture:

The Lord is my light and my salvation —     Whom shall I  fear?

The Lord is the stronghold of my life–    of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked advance against me to devour me  it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall.

Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear; though war break out against me, even then I will be confident.

One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek:  that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life,

to gaze on the beauty of the Lord, and to seek him in his temple.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling;   

he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent and set me high upon a rock.

Then my head will be exalted above the enemies who surround me;

At his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy;

I will sing and make music to the Lord.

Hear my voice when I call, Lord;  be merciful to me and answer me.

My heart says of you, “Seek his face!”  Your face, Lord, I will seek.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
I remain confident of this:  I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait  for the Lord.                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Psalm 27: 1-8; 13-14

 

Today marks the one year anniversary of when Eleanor officially became a Scheopner. China’s adoption process requires a 24 hour period of getting to know the child before the actual adoption. One year ago today, all the official paperwork was signed and stamped with Mom and Dad’s thumbprints and Eleanor’s footprint. Eleanor is such a blessing to us and we can’t imagine life without her. God has provided in so many ways throughout the whole adoption process and we know that He will continue to lovingly lead us each step of this journey together.

Blessings,                                                                                                                                                                                      Juliana

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This weekend we posted about having received a matching grant to help with the expenses of completing an adoption. If you missed it, you can see the details about God’s timing and provision here. That grant – one a friend had encouraged us to pursue – was just another example of how our community has come together to help bring this little child into a family – our family – with such love in action.

Love in action is really what this adoption has been about so far – and I suspect will continue to be as we transition from the preparation phase to the action phase of bringing Rui Shan into our family. It was love in action that caused someone to post her profile in our OI Parents group. It was love in action that brought our kids to start Operation Adoption, and it was love in action that brought so many generous people into our driveway in preparation for and on the days of an enormous garage sale. It was love in action that caused people to play Freethrows for Family, or collect soda cans they could have easily flung into recycling, and it was love in action that gave our kids so many work opportunities this summer. We have seen love lived out in your actions again and again – and that is what we are celebrating on Sunday. We want to invite you to come and celebrate this milestone: through your love in action, we are about to embark on the travel part of the adoption journey!

You will see love in action in a few very fun ways on Sunday! Feel free to bring friends, children, grandchildren, and come enjoy the delightful Floofus, have some munchies or a cup of coffee, and take a minute to sign Rui Shan’s quilt so she will one day soon be able to see and understand how very much she has been loved and anticipated since before we even saw her sweet face.

 

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We are in waiting mode. One of us is fine with that. One of us is kinda over it.

Around here, these days are quite a bit like the end of the third trimester of a pregnancy, when it would be entirely possible for labor to start *any minute*. Or it could be another four weeks. Either way, there is nothing to be done to hasten it – it’s a matter of waiting on God’s perfect timing.

What are we waiting on? There is a computer system in China that is used for the CCCWA to verify some records before they can issue travel invitations. The system went down shortly before our dossier arrived in China back in March, and it is still down. For the time being, then, the CCCWA is manually verifying the information that is generally accomplished via a computer-generated verification. Travel invitations that used to take a few days are now taking between two and six weeks. We have been waiting for ours for three weeks, and with each passing day, it becomes more likely that we will get our travel invitation the next day.

There are people in our family making predictions about which day it will come. I feel like the pregnant woman whose co-workers have started a pool, but this time I have no intuition or physical insights. It’s pretty crazy around here in these waiting rooms. It’s reassuring to know that God’s timing is perfect, and that He is working all of this out according to His plan in His time.

And in the meantime, every little milestone counts. Here’s the latest one!

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But those who wait upon (hope in) the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31

 

 

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Welcome Home

Travel to China

Invitation to travel

Finalize Immigration - Article 5 Approval - 7/5/2016

Finalize Immigration - NVC Attachment

Finalize Immigration - I-800

Letter Seeking Confirmation - Completed

Log-in Date (LID) - 3/31/2016

Dossier to China (DTC) - Completed

Authenticate Documents - Completed

Immigration Approval (I800-A) - Completed

Homestudy - Completed

Pre-approval to adopt - Completed

Today, as I was processing all that this means, and the timeline that is getting shorter, a dear friend reminded me “He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together.” (Colossians 1:17) I am claiming this truth as we experience this glorious acceleration that is no surprise to God!

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to bring you a real-time update.

One thing you may not know is that our children would like to accompany us on the upcoming trip to China.

When we first started thinking about the configuration of what travel might look like, we came up with a number of possible groupings of who would stay and who would go. But the more we talked to people about it, and thought and prayed about it, the more clear it became that in this case, our very best scenario would involve all four of our children coming along to welcome their little sister into our family. Our agency identified a number of wonderful advantages to the whole family going, and we can think of several additional important reasons that would make this the best situation for Rui Shan, and each of the children. Obviously this will add additional expenses – for travel, particularly, and a bit for lodging – so our oldest three children formed a cooperative business called Operation: Adoption to contribute to the additional expenses, and our youngest son is collecting aluminum cans to recycle to boost the fund.

Through Carloads of Cans and Operation: Adoption, we have been blessed beyond our wildest imagination! Our big kids have offered their services to residents of nearby neighborhoods to perform all sorts of odd jobs, yard work, pet sitting, baby sitting, etc. in exchange for a donation to the adoption fund. And have they ever been blessed already! Not only have a number of neighbors offered them a wonderful opportunity to work, but through both of these ventures we have all had the chance to meet and get to know some amazing neighbors we otherwise might not have connected with. Best of all, we have discovered that we are definitely part of a community that loves and welcomes this little girl. We know that we are made to be in community, and this summer has already been a perfect reminder of the gift that we have in our neighbors and friends, old and new!

So our days look like this right now:

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Preparing for a HUGE garage sale next weekend to raise funds for our adoption. (Please spread the word!) We are praying for an *incredible* number of customers to buy the things many of you have so generously contributed!

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Operation:Adoption – weeding

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Operation: Adoption – preparing a garden site

 

 

And in the midst of all this industry, look what arrived:

 

 

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It’s our I-800! Today’s mail told us that we are one milestone closer to our trip, and we are trying not to freak out amazed by how quickly this is going!

 

Lord, you have been our dwelling place throughout all generations. Before the mountains were born or you brought forth the earth and the world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God. Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. (Psalm 90:1-2, 12)

 

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We just reached the next milestone in our adoption – two weeks before we expected! We have been waiting and hoping to receive – by early June – our Letter Seeking Confirmation (formerly called the Letter of Approval). This is usually taking 6-8 weeks. Ours was a little quicker, and caught us by (happy) surprise.
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Receiving the LSC means that our dossier has been reviewed, and the CCCWA agrees that we may adopt Baby Patience! It is a crucial document asking us to verify that we want to adopt the child we identified in our Letter of Intent back in the fall.  (Oh, YES, WE DO!!!) We signed and returned it yesterday, confirming our desire to adopt this child for whom we have been waiting with hope! We are thanking God for His perfect timing, and trusting Him to bring this to be according to His plan!

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Our dear, darling daughter on the other side of the world from us turned two today.  We are so thankful for the gift of her life – for the parents who gave her life, for her foster parents and nannies who are loving on her today and sustaining her, and for the many people whose work is enabling her life and our lives to be joined together. We are so eager to be able to mark milestones with her before too long. Tonight we had to mark the big day without the guest of honor, but we are mindful that each day that passes brings us nearer to our time to meet and hold her, and to begin to let her know how special she is to us, and above all to God.  We can’t wait to celebrate with her in the years to come!

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Did you see that finish?  Two 3-pointers in the last 5 seconds – one from North Carolina to tie the game and one from Villanova for the win and the national championship.  Guess that is why they call this tournament March Madness.  With that final buzzer, our Freethrows for Family contest comes to a close as well.  We are so blessed by each of you that participated in the game and for your generous contributions to our adoption fund.   We are happy to report that the Gaskill family won the iPad with the #40 square.

Additionally, in the middle of the craziness of hosting a speech and debate tournament for 100 students last week, we received our log in date on Thursday, March 31, 2016.  This is the date that our dossier was officially entered into the system for review by PRC.

Welcome Home

Travel to China

Invitation to travel

Finalize Immigration

Letter of Approval (LOA)

Log-in Date (LID) - 3/31/2016

Dossier to China (DTC) - Completed

Authenticate Documents - Completed

Immigration Approval (I800-A) - Completed

Homestudy - Completed

Pre-approval to adopt - Completed

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What a whirlwind this past week has been! There have been a number of amazing opportunities to see God’s hand working in this season of wonder – in conversations, in surprising opportunities, in unbelievable provision. Those are all posts in their own right, so I will just leave this good news here.  We mailed our completed, authenticated dossier to our agency on Friday, and today they received it and sent it out the door – to China! This means we have hit a major milestone – our adoption status is DTC – Dossier to China, and now we wait for our log-in date when our dossier enters the review process. In the meantime, we are praying for this little one and her caregivers, and would welcome you joining us in this, too.

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